A difficult day today. In the past month, I’ve lost a girlfriend and a boyfriend, and hours ago, my son and daughter-in-law boarded a plane back to California. If you have children, and if your children live far away, you understand. And if you have ever loved a woman or a man, romantically or otherwise, you surely understand the sadness that comes with their loss as well. But was it sadness or self-pity I was feeling? There were twinges of something that felt like pity but not quite. My escape route of cigarettes and solitaire did not satisfy, what is this?, I am miserable.
from Quora.com / Karen Chamberlain
Self-pity asks “why me?”, and focuses on how the situation is not fair. There’s a whining quality to it. There is almost a belief that I, among all humans, should not have to suffer this pain.
Sadness does not include annoyance or the sense that the misfortune was not deserved. It is purely the grief that comes with loss.
Purely the grief that comes with loss. In the past month, I’ve lost a girlfriend and a boyfriend, and hours ago, my son and daughter-in-law boarded a plane back to California.
artwork: Berthe Morisot / Julie Daydreaming